I’m addicted to Bravo’s Top Chef 3 Miami.
***If you’re a fan of the show, and have not seen this past week’s episode, beware of spoilers*
Now, I’m not a cook, I don’t do well in the kitchen other than doing/cooking the basics, and even then, you won’t be seeing me in this kind of competition anytime soon. LOL
Top Chef, now in its third siZZling season (had to throw that in there
), features passionate individuals, some have attended culinary academies all over the country and the world and some are self-taught. Besides cooking, these Cheftestants have in common the drive and desire to reach their goals in this industry.
The winner of Top Chef receives $100,000 to further his/her culinary career, a feature in Food & Wine mag and a weekend ( I think) in Aspen, CO., and of course, the title of Top Chef and bragging rights, blah, blah.
I’m not much for “reality shows” these days, not since the early days of MTV’s The Real World have I been overly excited over a show like this one.
A few episodes ago I started seeing the connection between my writing career and this show.
It all “clicked” for me at the end of this past Wednesday’s episode. Top Chef, for me, has so much to teach about writing and pursing a career in publishing my books. But like I said, never did I put two and two together (consciously) until this week’s losing team attitude came under my scrutiny (and that of the Top Chef judges).
At risk of going all over the place…let me say this first:
The DH is in sales and like me he reads a lot. In recent years, he’s been reading tons of self help books on “making a sale”, “making money”, “motivating others”, you know which ones I’m talking about. Some time this past week, I happened to pick up his copy of Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff About Money, then other books like Rich Dad, Poor Dad, The Millionaire Next Door The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, and Creating Raving Fans.
These books have one “theme” in common, (besides helping you figure out how to be more financially successful), they all claim successful people have the “right attitude”, success and achieving your dreams/goals starts in your mind first before they materialize in your life. Makes sense.
I saw this theme/theory play right in front of my eyes during this past Weds episode 7 of Top Chef 3. To put this in context let me give you a -in my own words- synopsis of what happened during that episode:
After this episode’s immunity challenge was completed, Padma Lakshmi the host of Top Chef informs the remaining contestants: Tre, Sara M., Casey, Howie, Hung, Brian, CJ, and Sara N., they are going out that night to a popular Miami club. The chefs do their happy dances, go on to dress up to the nines, hop in a stretch Hummer limo and then arrive at the club -but it turns out they are not going to be hitting dance floor a la Justin Timberlake - they are there to COOK for the late night party goers of the club. LOL.
You can imagine the look on these poor chefs’ faces when they realize they are not only going to cook in their finest clothes “clubbing” - high heels and low cut tops for the women - but they are going to draw numbers and divide themselves into two groups:
Team Black: Tre, Hung, Brian and Sara M.
Team Orange: Case, CJ, Sara N. and Howie aka the “bulldog”
As Team Black immediately sets out to plan out their menu for the drunken soon to be hung over late night party goers, Team Orange is on edge.
Everyone on Team Orange KNOWS Howie is the most difficult person to work with. He doesn’t do well in teams and while he might be an ok chef -if you like food seasoned with his sweat - he is an @$$.
Howie’s teammates enter the challenge on the defensive, and I don’t mean playing “defense! defense! defense!” to what was suppose to be their true enemy: Team Black, but on the defensive against each other and self appointed team captain, Howie.
Deeply affected from the get go is young Sara N. Already upset that she’s not going to be nowhere near “da club” that night, and she’s going to have to cook in a super low cut top and heels, the clincher is how much she dislikes Howie and his bulldoggish ways. I knew right then and there Team Orange was going to be the losing team and more importantly, I knew Sara N. had just chosen her attitude: a negative one, and therefore she had just put herself on the elimination chopping block.
Through the competition all we got from Sara N., were complaints, and inconsistent cooking. She under seasoned her sliders and added ice to a simple banana shake. She was moving in slow motion. Sadly none of her teammates offered to help her out when she fell behind in her service. Sara N. closed herself to the world and therefore to her goal of remaining in the competition.
Sara N., went home that night after telling the judges she had been “demoralized” because of the fact she had to cook in heels. One of the judges actually liked the slider she’d served him, but the other judges ate under seasoned sliders and only one of them got to try her banana shake.
IF ONLY! *Someone once told me these are the saddest words in the English language*
If only, Sara had put her best foot forward (heels or no heels) and have chosen to give her best in this challenge. The judges (and viewers) know Howie’s days are numbered, he could have gone home instead of Sara, but it was Sara’s poor attitude that wiped her out of the competition and sadly affected her cooking abilities. And cooking is the reason why she was in the show in the first place.
Personally, I believe Sara N. will be ok after losing the competition, in retrospect she’s gained more out of this experience based on this single lesson. She will become a better Chef for it. I hope she believes knows this, too.
Now going back to how this all connect with writing.
IMO, the point of this Top Chef challenge is not about cooking, but how to roll with the punches without losing sight of your ultimate goal. In the case of the Chefs is winning the competition, in the case of the writer is writing and publishing books.
Make the best out of every situation, don’t assign blame, laugh off your mistakes (and be sure not to make them again), and banish all and every negative thought. Going into any venture like in our case, writing, with a bad attitude almost guarantees defeat, because a crappy attitude can and will affect your writing, and ultimately your goals.
“Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure.”
Norman Vincent Peale
You Tell Me: Have you noticed a change for the better (or worse) in your writing when you have a change of attitude? How do you overcome a negative attitude?